Make a good one...someone once said to me. How the pressure intensified.
First Impressions. Do they matter? Do we treat every first meeting like an interview? Are the stakes too high? Is there too big of an emphasis left on "chemistry?" Are we afraid to truly connect with people? Do we let ourselves be who we really are? Or do we cop out too early? Is time needed to open up?
Perhaps we should all begin to tread the waters of our social paradigms recklessly. Dare to be who you are and not be the mysterious. Be patient. Wait for that other flower to bloom.
Why do we judge? Why are we so superficial? Are we supercilious?
Do we need to be an exact match? Can we be polar opposites yet still meet at the center?
Does a first date with no fireworks deserve a second chance?
If we don't "hit it off" right away can I be redeemed?
Does a disagreement have to be escalated into an argument or an awkward moment and not just be a fundamental disagreement?
Why lead on when we can slow our pace a bit? Why do we cut people loose?
Why do we shape the other person into our vision of a perfect model and then cast them as phony when they do not meet the predetermined standards?
Does the bar need to be raised?
Why not appreciate the entrance of someone new in your life; the beginning is so fresh and sweet, refrain from belying the facts. Savor the taste of a potential new found friend, colleague, lover, confidant, associate, adviser, artistic collaborator, critic or motivator.
A person goes through a first date with aplomb. That mentality is auspicious.
Is one chance really all we get?
Perhaps that is all we truly deserve. One life. One chance.
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