"9 Reasons Not to Hold a Grudge" By Greg Hernandez

Holding grudges is not only unhealthy but a waste of time and energy.
Here are a few reasons why.

1.) Apologizing is tough. You're not releasing tension. The negative thoughts build and build as you continue to resent that person.  Holding in an apology is like holding in a dump, it eventually becomes awkward and painful the longer you keep it within.  It may be easier to say you're sorry earlier.

2.) You may lose someone. It could be a friend, family member or a love interest, no matter who it is, that person may or may not be worth losing. For instance, you're collaborating on a project with someone and you reach an impasse. Creative differences are wrecking the progress. Perhaps give compromising a try. Let yourself lose. By losing on one issue, you keep the person that you may or may not need...which leads me to the next reason.

3.) It's a waste of time and energy. Try not to waste your time begrudging someone who is not worth it. Sometimes it's fine to let that person go, because they were bound to leave your life sooner rather than later. You don't need them. Let them go without any regrets, especially if getting rid of them did not cost you anything.

4.) Oasis said it best, "Don't look back in anger."

5.) Holding a grudge makes you look unattractive to your peers. That constipated face of yours may come back to haunt you. Your friends may end up viewing you differently if you hang on to that grudge for too long. After a while, a grudge becomes a petty thing. Negativity lingers like a ubiquitous odor. It touches the senses of those around you. Chances are they suffer your smell for very long.

6.) You cannot admit to being wrong. Perhaps you feel that you're always right. If someone calls you out for being a certain way, you develop some ill will toward them. Your sensitivity is masked by your desire to be in total control. If anybody steals your thunder, you will most certainly give them the death stare every time you see them.

7.) Holding a grudge is a strong sign of immaturity. It is a blatant act of refusing to learn how to grow as a person. You're unwilling to move forward- you're not progressing in life.

8.) Persisting in a grudge may force you to become isolated. Solitude is nice at times, but it is devastating if that is your routine. Holding grudges may drive your friends away. Nobody wants to hang out with the "dark cloud." If your friends do not side with you, well...there is still your parents...not really.

9.) Getting even is overrated. Just let it go.